01973cam a2200277 4500 546494266 TxAuBib 20111201120000.0 111201s2011||||||||||||||||||||||||eng|u 9780547520193 0547520190 (OCoLC)651912253 BTCTA eng BTCTA YDXCP IH7 TxAuBib Simmons, Rachel, 1966- Odd Girl Out : The Hidden Culture Of Aggression In Girls / Rachel Simmons. Rev. and updated; 1st Mariner Books ed. New York : Mariner Books, 2011. xix, 412 p. ; 21 cm. Includes bibliographical references (p. 369-386) and index. The hidden culture of aggression in girls -- Intimate enemies -- The truth hurts -- She's all that -- The bully in the mirror -- Popular -- Resistance -- Parents and teachers -- The road ahead. There is little sugar but lots of spice in journalist Rachel Simmons's brave and brilliant book that skewers the stereotype of girls as the kinder, gentler gender. Odd Girl Out begins with the premise that girls are socialized to be sweet with a double bind: they must value friendships; but they must not express the anger that might destroy them. Lacking cultural permission to acknowledge conflict, girls develop what Simmons calls "a hidden culture of silent and indirect aggression." The author, who visited 30 schools and talked to 300 girls, catalogues chilling and heartbreaking acts of aggression, including the silent treatment, note-passing, glaring, gossiping, ganging up, fashion police, and being nice in private/mean in public. She decodes the vocabulary of these sneak attacks, explaining, for example, three ways to parse the meaning of "I'm fat." --- Amazon. 20111201. Aggressiveness in children. Girls Psychology. TXGAI